@myswtest
Thank you for your suggestion I have looked at the post.
Unfortunately I do not run any of the major desktops.
My desktop is based on Fluxbox as my WM that is it.
I customized the theme (decorations+top bar + buttons, etc) and 'definitely' I want all my applications to follow my settings.

I.e my close window button is on the left not right. and I want to be able to 'shade' a window

Following is just a general frustration rant feel free to ignore it.
Since when the developers know better what I like?
Since when the liberty to choose the look and feel of your screen went up in smoke

I do not mind having more options to fit everybody choice and taste but removing the fundamentals of what free means is quite mean

Besides not everybody uses touch screens and smart devices and use their fingers on the touch screen.