IS there a extensions manager where i can move the order of them around?

There is an extensions manager built into Opera but it automatically arranges them alphabetically. I don't know of any extensions or plugins that change the fictionally of the extensions manager.

can the extensions wrap around so i can see all of them?

I don't see the point in this. Its highly dependent on your screen resolution and the number of extensions you have installed. That said, the zoom function does work on the extensions page and it does save the zoom setting you set it to when you lose it.

What about clocks we used to be able to move them around and have as many as you want.

There are clock extensions made for Opera but I don't know if any of them allow unlimited clocks on screen at once.

i assume the buttons are never coming back, they said they would but i guess not.

It took them 18 years to get up to Opera 12. Its been 2 since they launched the Blink based Opera. A lot of work needs to get done to get it up to scratch and some things have higher priority than others. Whining about a pet feature isn't going to change that.

if there was a good extension manager i would be fine.

There is a good extensions manager. Its built into the browser.

i love the new opera with the speed dials i never used bookmarks on the old opera either.

The old one had speed dials too. The new one had bookmarks. Exactly what versions of Opera are you talking about anyway? It seems like you are using really old versions of both the Presto and Blink based Opera.